Its been a long wedding season this quarter, starting from early November right until 1st week of February and attending a lot of weddings has brought a certain type of behavior amongst the attendees to my notice; I call them the ‘Wedding Thrashers’. Sounds similar to Wedding Crashers?? Well I believe the former are worse than the latter ones.
So who exactly are these ‘Wedding Thrashers’? Well it could be anyone around you who’s attending the wedding; it could be your friends, family members, I discovered that even my own sister is an expert WT! I used to be one too until I realized my mistake.
I think we all will agree that lots of weddings are attended for the sake of formalities and one keeps hearing “Aare ghar pe khana nahi banaya tha…isliye aa gaya”, “Doesn’t look nice if we don’t attend”, “I just got this new dress and wanted to wear it for some event and this wedding came up!” and a million other bahanas for having to attend a wedding as an obligation. And these are the perfect set of people who turn into Wedding Thrashers and don’t even realize they are at it!
“I think the bride’s nose is too big” Giggles Giggles Laughter
WT 1 : “I don’t understand why everyone has to have their wedding in XYZ Hall/Hotel. I am sick and tired of eating here”
WT 2 : “ I know yaar, I think I have started recognizing some of the staff around here too!!”
WT female 1 : “What kind of make-up is that!!! My hair looks better when I get out of bed in the morning”
WT female 2 : “Totally, it looks like an eagles nest, and did you see how evil looking her mom-in-law is! God save the girl”
WT male “Saale ka matka lag gaya hai!!” grinning at the groom while saying this.
So who exactly are these ‘Wedding Thrashers’? Well it could be anyone around you who’s attending the wedding; it could be your friends, family members, I discovered that even my own sister is an expert WT! I used to be one too until I realized my mistake.
I think we all will agree that lots of weddings are attended for the sake of formalities and one keeps hearing “Aare ghar pe khana nahi banaya tha…isliye aa gaya”, “Doesn’t look nice if we don’t attend”, “I just got this new dress and wanted to wear it for some event and this wedding came up!” and a million other bahanas for having to attend a wedding as an obligation. And these are the perfect set of people who turn into Wedding Thrashers and don’t even realize they are at it!
“I think the bride’s nose is too big” Giggles Giggles Laughter
WT 1 : “I don’t understand why everyone has to have their wedding in XYZ Hall/Hotel. I am sick and tired of eating here”
WT 2 : “ I know yaar, I think I have started recognizing some of the staff around here too!!”
WT female 1 : “What kind of make-up is that!!! My hair looks better when I get out of bed in the morning”
WT female 2 : “Totally, it looks like an eagles nest, and did you see how evil looking her mom-in-law is! God save the girl”
WT male “Saale ka matka lag gaya hai!!” grinning at the groom while saying this.
If you have ever heard these conversations around you in weddings then you have experienced Wedding Thrashers, and if you have been part of these conversations, then you are a WT yourself!!
Why am I making so much fuss about casual comments passed during a wedding you may ask? Well the point is that 2 individuals and their families are tying a knot after having taken one of the most important decisions of their life and want to share their joy with you by wanting you to be a part of that memorable event. They must have spent endless nights trying to arrange things for their guests, not to mention the amount of $$$ spent that keeps the F&B industry in business. After all that pyaar and pain what WT’s do is simply walk into the wedding hall and be critical about anything that doesn’t look right to them. Well ofcourse there will be goof ups, the couple might not be Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, the food might be a little too oily for your liking, but all these cosmetic details of the wedding shouldn’t distract you from the main purpose of being at that wedding, which is to congratulate, support and shower blessings and good wishes to those who thought that your presence mattered that day!
Why am I making so much fuss about casual comments passed during a wedding you may ask? Well the point is that 2 individuals and their families are tying a knot after having taken one of the most important decisions of their life and want to share their joy with you by wanting you to be a part of that memorable event. They must have spent endless nights trying to arrange things for their guests, not to mention the amount of $$$ spent that keeps the F&B industry in business. After all that pyaar and pain what WT’s do is simply walk into the wedding hall and be critical about anything that doesn’t look right to them. Well ofcourse there will be goof ups, the couple might not be Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, the food might be a little too oily for your liking, but all these cosmetic details of the wedding shouldn’t distract you from the main purpose of being at that wedding, which is to congratulate, support and shower blessings and good wishes to those who thought that your presence mattered that day!
This is no movie or restaurant to play critic about the poor direction, make-up, acting, ambience, food or service! Think beyond that, take a look at the close relatives of those party to the wedding; look at the alacrity with which they welcome you, the happiness on their face, their warm hospitality and then the event will look much bigger than trivial things like sabzi was too teekha and poor decoration. Sometimes in life, one needs to have a selfless approach towards things, and most of us do have it but lose our way because we forget the real reason behind the action, WT’s are guilty of this, and the sooner they mend their ways, the better it will be for everyone to enjoy the real pleasure of the event.
4 comments:
A sorry state of affairs - but an unavoidable one at that..coupla reasons: 1)Social protocol demands these formalities at times, which ask of people to attend weddings of people they are not too close to.
2) People are free and frivolous enough to pass ludicrous remarks about people they are really not bothered about. Can't do much..
There will always be WT's around no matter what. But when they are complaining about say food or deocration - that does not necessarily mean they haven't brought their good wishes along for the couple!
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well, i have seen wedding thrashers in the people who are members of the same family of the bride and the groom. I'd say being critical about food should not be an attribute of a wedding thrasher, but being critical about the brides looks is definately what you would call a wedding thrasher. Nice post, thoughts well put out...good blog
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